This is everything I didn’t know I needed in my life.
What a beautiful man, and that tattoo really makes this cosplay.
Warning: this opinion is about rape
Hello, tumblr. My name is Jack. I’m 17 years old. As you can tell by my name, I’m a guy. And last year, I was raped by my older male neighbor. I’d put my tumblr URL here, but I’ve received some disturbing and frankly borderline triggering messages in regards to my rape, so I’d rather not risk it. I hope you understand.
When I first went through my rape, all the supportive posts on tumblr about male rape victims was very comforting. I’m glad people acknowledged that guys could be raped and that they matter.
I eventually had much more bitter feelings towards these posts when I noticed a certain trend with them: almost all of them belittled female rape victims in some way.
Just because someone is talking about girls/women getting raped doesn’t mean you need to derail it with “guys get raped too!”. As long as nobody is denying that fact, it’s unnecessary. Not every conversation about rape has to include all demographics of rape victims. There can be posts about male rape victims only, and there can also be posts about female rape victims only.
It seems like people also act like female rape victims have it soooo easy and should just shut the fuck up, because male rape victims have it harder. A lot of women in my life including my friends and my sister have been raped, and it isn’t any easier for them. They still are told they deserved it, not given the legal attention they deserve, and accused of being liars and bitter sluts. That doesn’t sound easy to me. Male rape victims deal with a unique stigma as well (as in, some people don’t even believe we can get raped, which sucks) but that doesn’t mean it’s much easier for the ladies.
And another thing, why can’t tumblr have one nice photoset or post about male rape victims without some dumbass commenting “Because they’re men, nobody will care” or “This won’t get nearly as many notes as the female version”? Uh, shut the fuck up? You’re ruining the powerful message behind the post. And also, rape isn’t a fucking contest.
This not only pisses me off because I care about women and female rape victims, but it also pisses me off because I get the impression these people don’t actually give a shit about male rape victims at all. They only seem to use us as a prop in arguments to derail discussions of feminism, female victims, etc. by using a vulnerable group who has been through a horrible trauma. How sick is that?
While it’s important to spread awareness of other types of rapes besides male on female, there’s way to do so without derailing or talking over other victims.
So, as a tl;dr to this opinion: if the only time you talk about male rape victims is in some way to downplay or belittle women getting raped, then fuck you. You are a piece of shit, nothing more.
We deserve to be mentioned in our own posts rather than in derailment, and women who have been deserve a chance to talk about their experience without someone derailing saying men can get raped too when nobody was denying that fact. Fuck. You.
This is honestly one of the best things I’ve read in a long time.
Thank you, so many thanks to you Jack for saying this.
Haha, thank you very much! I’m Vyvyan on the outside and Neil on the inside.
Some photos of me at Fan Expo Vancouver this past weekend.
Was Livewire on the Saturday at my booth with my two lovely ladies Miss Kiss and Madeline Masquerade.
This island is made of icecream?! and I get cake too? Amazing.
Mint chocolate chip, moose tracks, and cookies n’ cream!
To be honest I’m more of a pie person, cakes that I love are like DQ icecream cake, coffee cake, or cheesecake.
Or anything with cinnamon in it, cinnamon is my most favorite thing in pastries and pretty much in general.
A question about something that one can’t easily find the answer to by looking at my tumblr.
Lets followers learn new things!
The head-turning Game of Thrones actress Gwendoline Christie is a towering 6ft 3in tall and admits she often felt she couldn’t relate to women on the big screen because of her Amazonian frame, but is now relishing the opportunity to play a tough, fierce warrior in the medieval fantasy drama.
She said: “It’s really vitally important to me the way women are portrayed. As someone who has always felt at times pretty genderless because of my size, it interests me to challenge ideas of prejudice and femininity, and what it is to be a woman.”
The towering actress reveals that she had numerous setbacks in her career before landing a prized role as Brienne of Tarth in the hit show, adding: “I found it so frustrating, particularly at the beginning, because I would be told, ‘Sorry love, you’re too tall.’ At one stage I was like, ‘I’ll give this another six months and if this persists, ‘I’ll become a nun.’ “
For her role as warrior Brienne, Gwendoline trained how to fight with swords and ride horses and says it’s “empowering” to know she can “break a man’s nose with my elbow.”
"I do all my own stunts and come away with bruises and scratches. After one scene I was absolutely covered in bruises all down one leg and up one arm. But it’s worth it. It’s quite fun. I enjoy knocking around with the boys."
I have such an overwhelming crush on this woman. As herself and as Brienne.
Dream: Doug Jones
Daniel Hall: Jared Leto
Delirium: Lily Cole
Destiny: Ian McKellen
Desire: Tilda Swinton
Despair: Danny DeVito
Destruction: Joe Manganiello
Death: Mary Elizabeth Winstead
The Corinthian: Michael Fassbender
Cain: Tom Hiddleston
Abel: Nick Frost
Merv Pumpkinhead: John Leguizamo
Lucien: Rhys Ifans
Fiddlers Green (Gilbert): Robbie Coltrane
Hob Gadling: Paul Giamatti
I approve of this list so passionately overall.
Especially when it comes to Tilda and Rhys, two of my celebrity crushes that would be perfect as those characters.